Originally Posted by NatalieRose
I've really no clue how to process or handle any of this.
I'd say, stick with what you are doing. It may seem like your world is spinning out of control but, at least by what you've written here, you are ahead of the game.
Sounds like you two are covering so many bases that you could probably right your own book on the subject. Allowing people their own "process" as you put it, while taking full authority and responsibility for your own needs and desires are the major points I would recommend. Since you already seem to be doing this I can only offer you a 'high five' and encourage you to keep it up.