Originally Posted by london
And in that statement, you just invalidated the lifestyles of about a trillion kinksters.
It's a matter of priorities, or at least one of emphasis. I don't walk up to people at parties and introduce myself as vanilla, or as straight, or as poly, or anything else. If they ask, I'm more likely to talk about what I am and what I do in the wider world, not in the bedroom: teacher, father, musician . . .
I at least tell them my name first!