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Old 06-16-2013, 01:56 AM
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Originally Posted by Simone View Post
He's not big on rules (I wanted him to limit how many times he sees the same person)
A primary limiting quality in how successful a person is likely to be in a polyamous relationship is how comfortable they are with the other members living their lives. So, the degree to which you are uncomfortable with your bf seeing someone else is inversely related to how successful your poly relationship will likely be.

Any rules your partner might allow you to impose on him would need to be very temporary. Whatever time frame went through your head when I said that is too long because most people will develop resentments for someone oppressing them pretty quickly. Personally I think proposing rules for controlling a loved ones actions is fundamentally harmful to their relationship.

Compersion should be your goal, not control.
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