Vanilla can mean that someone doesn't indulge in kinky sex or it can mean they do not identify with a kink label. In my extensive experience, i've met one guy who totally excluded kink from his sex life, most guys I meet are kinky, they just don't identify with a kink label. Simple. This makes them vanilla. The vast majority of the time, the guy has kinky sex, he just doesn't agree or wish to partake in a relationship with a power exchange outside the bedroom. I pretty much exclusively date vanilla guys now. Just the way the cookie has crumbled.
Last edited by london; 06-15-2013 at 11:50 PM.