London, the OP here has identified himself as having Asperger's but hasn't referred to himself as autistic. I know that Aspies are part of that "spectrum," but it is considered to be somewhat different from high-functioning autism, so I think that you are getting all political in defense of all autistic people for no reason. If you are going to refer to the OP's syndrome/disorder in regard to the dilemma he is struggling with, I think it would be more respectful to refer to his issue as related specifically to Asperger's, not autism, since he did not identify himself as autistic.
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