Glad to be of some help then.
No online advice - I like fishing in known waters. I meet people in RL from things/places I already do. Having a dating partner who's style/tastes run along similar lines ups the compatible a bit.
We just really want to meet others like us that we (or I or she) might click with. If nothing else, it would be nice to have friends that understand us, as my current friends think I'm totally insane for "allowing" my wife to have a boyfriend. It would be kind of funny if it weren't so tragic.
Perhaps you want to build the friend support base then? To be there to support you through the ups and downs of dating?