To be honest, I never even considered this option. I guess I see it as such an invasive surgery for women, with a much higher likelihood of complications, some of which can be quite serious. I've been such a longterm feminist that I really feel that birth control shouldn't be a woman's responsibility if neither party wants a child. When I talk with men who don't want children, they have always considered having a vasectomy, but have never had a 'push' towards making that decision. It's an interesting step up to the plate for men to have offered to them; I will go on the pill regardless, as baby juice keeps flowing for quite some time in some men, but it does give TheDirector the opportunity to give it some thought. In an overpopulated world, I wish that more men would get fixed; I think it'd be great if our government offered tax incentives to men with vasectomies. Less children means a healthier world - environmentally, socially, etc.
This is a very, very good point. That 0.01% can grow with the right person, or during a life changing experience. For Elemental, it was 100%, for the fella I was in the quad with, it was 100%. I do know men who haven't gotten vasectomies even after they reached their desired baby level, as they were never 100% sure that they would stay together forever, and wanted to be able to give a potential future partner children if they wanted them. It's a pretty huge decision, and not one to be made lightly.
And thank you! I put it out there, and am happy that you're connecting with it - means a lot to me.
Thoughts of my own:
I do think that there's quite a stigma around having one's balls messed with though. I think that there is a preconceived notion, even if it's just on a psychological level, that it somehow interferes with manhood. My husband is a huge advocate for vasectomies - he had one when he was 21, and had to see three doctors before one finally believed that he TRULY didn't want to have children. He feels that it's a gift that he can give his lovers, and also made his lipservice to not wanting children a reality. I had a lot of respect for that choice.
Sometimes it's hot sex that is the impetus for finally making that call - a personal example... we were in a quad a couple of years back, and the female of the duo had been trying to get him to get a vasectomy for over a decade. They didn't want to have kids, she was tired of being on the pill, and he did want one, but was weirded out about the testicle-touching-lasering-etc aspects of it. When he learned that he would have to wait for three months (fully recommended time on the pill for it to be as effective as it can be) before we could have unprotected sex (we were in a closed quad), or get a vasectomy and possibly have that date moved up - he went in the next week. It was over in a flash, he got the all clear, and his wife was super, super happy about it alongside him, and me, and all of us.
I have a lot of thoughts on how I feel that reproduction should be an earned right instead of a biological right. I have a lot of opinions and ideas in general though, and I'll spare y'all from the brunt of them for today