@nycindie, is it my husband? cause hes on OkCupid. lol. Actually he's having a hard time finding girls to date, hes a good looking guy but they get scared off by the married bit. I digress!
Thank you for the advise! Im glad I posted this because just the few responses are helping me feel better.
I think part of it too, is i feel like there is a lot riding on this right now because things have been rocky and I just want to relax and have fun with him like i used to!