Chimera, thank you! you are spot on. I used to have an article posted in my office titled "everything guilt" with a funny list of things like, i ate cookies in bed, my dog is fat because i dont walk her. Anyway, I will try to relax and enjoy, let my husband take care of himself until we discuss again and let BF deal with his own relationship issues with his spouse.
my husband really has been absolutely amazing, so im not sure why im worried!