Originally Posted by hyperskeptic
I don't see "vanilla" as negative at all, even when applied to ice cream. Have you ever had really, really good vanilla ice cream? It's subtle and sublime.
That said, I have heard of instances in which "vanilla" was used as a term of reproach. When I was involved with Nyx, all her kinky friends were incredulous. "But he's vanilla
!" they would protest. "Why would you waste your time on him?"
(And I really am very, deeply vanilla. I have no interest whatsoever in any aspect of BDSM.)