on this topic
I don't want to make any assumptions about you Root, because in general doing so is not good practice, and I have my own views of what exactly constitutes the behavior that actually is abusive, which is what I would call true unicorn hunter. Treating you and spouse as abusive hunters unless you are, is wrong.
And because everyone will agree that abuse is wrong as well as treating you as an abuser when you are not, is not the two sides that people are quick to line up with or on.
These types of topics really shouldn't be discussed, pardon my french, for the fuck of it. Which is the only reason I am going to say this, because unless you have never had an profile account here at polyamory.com, or at least never an active one, bringing up this topic as a fresh new face is not a good idea.
But I would be hard pressed to be able to say for sure, and it being wrong to just assume, I will take you at your word if you say otherwise
but because of the situation I feel it is appropriate to ask if you are really as fresh a face as 5 posts makes you appear?
not that I am of any authority or you under any obligation to answer