I can't imagine ever asking that of my gf if her and FJ wanted to have a child together. There's is no way in hell that would be a healthy situation for ANYONE, especially the child. And I say it certainly indicates she has some major control issues and doesn't view you as a real person to be respected. I'd be all sorts of crazy mad.
franchescasc-33, bi female, likely monogomish formerly in triad relationship with:
FJ-36, married 15 yrs
MD-35, gf for 8 months
Currently dating SM, male, 40, monogamous