Originally Posted by nycindie
Oh! Well, daily contact is not a requirement in poly! Were you given the impression that most people or couples would want that? I know for myself that I would not, and it certainly is not a given for every kind of relationship poly people would want. So, don't worry about that!
What poly books have you read? Opening Up by Tristan Taormino is a good one.
Just curious - are you only seeking a couple or have you also thought about other options? One of you might meet and be really interested in someone who has a partner that isn't interested in being part of a quad. Or you might meet a really awesome solo poly person. Have you considered dating people separately? It would certainly increase your dating pool to do so.
I will definitely look into the book you recommended. All of my research has just been online. As far as what we are looking for....obviously a couple would be "ideal" but I would be open to separate. I mean you can't really choose who you fall in love with and I don't want anything to be forced. I really don't know where to begin with it all, lol.