Originally Posted by beatleangel
The idea of swinging is not appealing to us at all. We both want another relationship and connection but there is no way we can be with another couple on a daily basis.
Oh! Well, daily contact is not a requirement in poly! Were you given the impression that most people or couples would want that? I know for myself that I would not, and it certainly is not a given for every kind of relationship poly people would want. So, don't worry about that!
What poly books have you read? Opening Up
by Tristan Taormino is a good one.
Just curious - are you only seeking a couple or have you also thought about other options? One of you might meet and be really interested in someone who has a partner that isn't interested in being part of a quad. Or you might meet a really awesome solo poly person. Have you considered dating people separately? It would certainly increase your dating pool to do so.