Originally Posted by nycindie
Hi and welcome! To be honest, it sounds like you are looking more for people to swing with, or an open relationship, rather than polyamory. Perhaps you need to read up a bit more on poly to understand what it is, and also visit some swinger sites.
"This lifestyle" doesn't exist. Polyamory isn't a lifestyle per se. There is no one polyamorous lifestyle to adopt. Having multiple loving relationships is something you bring to your own, unique already-exisiting lifestyle, and there are a myriad number of ways to live while being polyamorous.
Thanks for the reply. Yes I've read tons and I know the difference. The idea of swinging is not appealing to us at all. We both want another relationship and connection but there is no way we can be with another couple on a daily basis. I apologize for using the word "lifestyle." I am not an expert in this and was only trying to express everything the best I know how.