What the frick..
Do not have children in this messed up situation. If you can not be open about whose child it is with family then don't do it. Think of the effect on the child being introduced as so and so's child.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 60/40 split of time. Only due to Murf's and Butch's crappy work schedules.