Originally Posted by RiverRose
This is something your boyfriend needs to ask I think
Pretty messy situation, indeed.
However, I would suggest that you [OP] take care of any communication that involves your life. If you are having a power struggle with someone it doesn't really matter who they are dating, it's likely going to be best to discuss it with them personally. Putting this kind of responsibility on who they are dating sets a bad precedent and sets up the possibility for yet another power struggle.