Originally Posted by LadySFI
This is a great post. I had a poly relationship for 7 years and just because it didn't include sex, it gets "demoted" to "just good friends" repeatedly. I try to explain to people that it is/was SO much more than that but because I never had sex with him, it gets treated as much less than what it was.
Thank you for your post, I was starting to question it myself.
But did you WANT to have sex with him? I've read of others here with non-sexual bfs or gf. Redpepper and Baggage Control come to mind. Circumstances prevent the sex. Not desire.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
Mags (poly, F, 60) loving miss pixi (poly, F, 38) since January 2009, living together since 2013
also loving Punk (monogamish, former swinger, 42, M) since Oct 2015
"Master," (mono, 34), miss pixi's Dom for 2 years