Originally Posted by GalaGirl
How comfortable is she with you dating really? Or are these parameters in place not to just minimize you guys being "outed" but to minimize it happening at all?
Perhaps the "date outside this social circle" rule is an attempt to minimize any potential "messiness". Friends are a known entity, which makes the initial dating easier, but when/if things go bad, it has a lot of potential to drag other, mutual friends into the quagmire (with such things as perceived loyalties) as well. Family just makes that mess even messier.
You won't know until you talk about it more. If it's frustrating you, talk about it. Maybe you can find places where you can go looking (OKC, other avenues) with your wife's help.