Didn't I see someone tag an actual Poly dating site on here some time ago? Can anyone tell us again what that is? Could that be an option?
I understand her not wanting you to date someone from those places if she is trying not to be outed. Maybe she is okay with it, but doesn't want to have to explain to everyone you know why her husband has a date.
LadySFI- me; Pansexual, Heteromantic, Poly. "Open, but not looking".
C-Boyfriend - Pansexual, Heteromantic, Poly. "Open, but not looking".
Courage isn't the absence of fear, but the judgement that something else is more important than fear. -Ambrose Redmoon