Brief intro: my wife and I were both poly-curious, you might say, several years ago. I decided to go with it, she decided she was more comfortable remaining monogamous. However, we decided to stay together. She decided she was comfortable with me as I am, and could be comfortable with a multiple relationship IF it fell within certain parameters.
Lately, I've begun to feel like the parameters we set up are setting me up for failure in any other relationship. The biggest problem is the "don't date anyone you met through my family or through our religious organization".
The thing is, between work and spending time with the family, the only people I generally meet are either people I met through her family (we live near where she grew up, nowhere near where I grew up) or through our religious institution. The only two potentials I have right now are one of each.
I know the real solution is to discuss my dilemma with my wife, but any opinions or advice would be helpful.