He wants to be in love
I come here looking for answers to all kinds of deep issues related to the mono poly relationship I am in.
My first concern is that I seem to read more about poly being about having another "sexual" partner. For my Man, it's about having someone else to be in love [/B]with, a full fledged, loving and sexual relationship. I believe that I have always handled it much better when it was someone he just wanted to have sex with, a friend with benefits kind of thing. However, his ultimate goal is to find that third to join our existing relationship and for us all to live happily ever after.
He is with someone else right now that he feels is the idea woman for him, um for us. I am struggling terribly. I am not sure if it's jealousy alone, or just the plain simple fact that I like what he and I have together and I don't want to change it. In saying that, I will add that I love him with all my heart and truly care about his happiness.
We are in our forties, not a time in my life when I want to make any huge changes, be it ending the relationship or inviting some one else in.
Is there anyone who has dealt with a similiar situation that can offer me some insight please?