Originally Posted by LovingRadiance
I generally don't say we are poly or open or whatever.
I just explain that I have a bf and a dh.
But people always ask questions about what they don't understand. I just try to describe our dynamic clearly.
Originally Posted by YouAreHere
I used the "open" term
"Poly" seems to be a loaded word.
Me too, but I do use "open relationship". I'm not sure if it's just where I live and who I talk to, but this seems to get the message across effectively. I think that's because it uses terminology that is familiar to most people, even if the concept can be somewhat disconcerting for them. However, I am not aware of anyone I've spoken with about my own experiences who perceives it as "group sex".
Unlike those who are worried about being "judged" and alienated by their family/friends/communities, my experience has been that people simply are curious and want to ask me lots of questions, which i don't mind answering. Of course, I remind them that I don't speak for a group, I speak only for myself.