Originally Posted by Kameo
Does that sound harsh? I know everyone has their problems, but I don't think she's had sufficient time to process the trauma in her life as of recent and I think she's looking for a couple to fill the void. I would hate for us to get attached to her somehow, and have her relapse in any way.. then it's our problem to deal with too.. and neither of us are comfortable with that potential scenario and don't want that kind of heartbreak.
I don't think you're being harsh; I think you're being realistic. Q has a past of meth addiction too. We got together when he was only a year or so clean (I think?) but it's not a path I'd recommend to everyone. I don't know what you should do, but it looks like you're going in slowly and with eyes wide open, which is the best way to do it, IMHO. Good luck!