Hi and welcome to the board.
I'm not really sure what kind of input to give necessarily, because I'm not quite sure what you're asking or what you want help with. It seems to me that you know that you and your husband view sexual connections differently and that you're open to discussing that and setting some guidelines and boudaries in place.
So ... that sounds about right.
What particularly are you looking for help with and maybe I can amend my comments to offer better advice!