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Old 06-06-2013, 06:29 PM
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Originally Posted by LovingRadiance View Post
whereas-if an instruction is given
my brain doesn't get overwhelmed-it just follows the instruction blindly without thought allowing me to follow out the instructed activity.
It's slightly different for me. If I hear something as an instruction, I am more likely to rebel and not do it. But if I feel like someone will be disappointed in me, or goes to any trouble to be with me, I'll be more likely to go or do it. It's like I need to be motivated by someone else's needs rather than my own.
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