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Old 06-06-2013, 05:25 PM
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Originally Posted by LovingRadiance View Post
Someone telling me "you should go for a walk today" does nothing.
Someone asking "would you like to go for a walk today" does nothing.
Someone saying, "come on, lets go for a walk today" does something-it triggers a completely different part of my brain and even if I don't want to-I am compelled to "follow the instruction". Which-does do something.
Wow, I never thought of it this way before, but it's the same with me. I didn't know how to express it, which is why I said it can be tricky for the person trying to motivate someone. But yes, if someone asks me to get up and go do something with them, I could easily say no, but most likely I would say yes just to appease them, somehow leaving room in my mind for me to opt out, or knowing already that I will tell them later I changed my mind and can't go. But if it's more of a command or an expectation, and I know someone will be here ringing my doorbell or waiting somewhere for me to show up, something different clicks and I'm more motivated to go.
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