No worries. No one is expecting you to be perfect, even if sometimes we come off sounding judgmental. We just want to help you avoid things that seem like good ideas, but that haven't generally worked out well for others.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.