I don't know what else to tell you. You have made a set of choices that severely circumscribe your dating pool. What do you think you can expect? Plus, they have to come to YOU? Lol. The only thing i can suggest you do is to stop "looking". That's the only thing that really works, anyway. But you have to REALLY not be looking, you can't fake not looking because it doesn't work that way.
Marcus, i'll get with you in PM about the whole self-esteem and goal topic. Don't want to hijack this dude's thread, yo.