Congrats on figuring out you're probably poly! I also didn't understand it about myself either, for decades, and I just felt evil, immoral. Thank god for the modern poly movement!
Originally Posted by WillyB
If anyone can help on how to tell my significant other that I have realized this about myself without her being confused and just being able to accept me and either move on or join me please help or shed light on me. I am a bit scared and alone with no one to fully understand me besides others who are like me.
The best thing to do is educate yourself as much as possible about how poly works. If you're confident and informative, you can ease her transition as much as possible. She might still be confused, angry, upset, jealous, etc etc. It's a process that takes time. Good luck.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
There's no lying in polyamory!
I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)