Originally Posted by gosharx
Hi all! I am so glad I found this forum, I really need all of the support I can get! I am in a new poly relationship with a married couple. I have known the woman all my life (our moms were friends in high school) and her husband I have just started to get to know. We have been together for about three months and are now all living together.
Even though you've known your gf all your life, moving in together while in a romantic relationship with both her and now her husband is quite a large step to take after only 3 months... That might be more stressful than you think. Especially if you and your kid moved into their house, not a new neutral territory.
What do your moms think of their daughters and a guy all getting it on in a romantic/sexual way?
They have three kids and I have one so it's really mutually beneficial to all be under the same roof. Naturally, we sometimes hit rough patches involving jealously. Whether it's her or me saying "he's not touching me enough", "you're always mad at me!", etc. I'm wondering if anyone has any advice for me on how to handle it? We all love each other and I can safely say this is the BEST relationship I have ever been in.
I am in a V, not a triad (though my partners have some feelings for each other, I'm the hinge). I have just moved in with my gf. It took us 4 years of dating/overnights and weekends together to take the plunge of moving in together. My bf lives a couple towns away from our new house. When we all get together here it's not hard to share time, but when we got out all 3 together I often feel a bit harried to give them equal attention... even to the point of lamenting sidewalks arent wide enough for walking 3 abreast, and one has to walk before or after the other 2!
But "you're always mad at me!" doesn't sound healthy at all. What are your options? Complete transparency, no sarcasm or passive aggressiveness, no name-calling. Instead, deep respect, using "I statements," patiently listening to your partners' concerns, reflecting back what you hear, then expressing yourself without blaming, and sharing clearly what your boundaries are.
Ultimately knowing you can't change or control anyone but yourself.