. It does help, though, to read what other folks are going through. Like BoringGuy, I like to see what the pitfalls are, so I can try to avoid them before we encounter them.
We don't always avoid them, but we can learn ways to deal with them, and avoid repeating them.
Once i identify certain individuals whose advice i value (such as my two partners, and the "late" Autumnal Tone), i don't even have to ask them the questions because i know what the answers will be.