I am definitely trying keep communicating but it is sometimes hard when one of them gets mad for me saying why I'm upset. I'm starting to feel like I should just bottle it all up so that it doesn't cause any more fights between us. I know this is not the right way to handle it but it seems like the easy way. In our relationship, no one is a secondary, we are all #1 to eachother. That is sometimes hard to accept as they are married and I will always be the outsider (until polygamy is legal anyways!).