Just a quick followup. I got the most wonderful note from T today. The short version is she loves me a whole lot and is very grateful for my understanding and support.
Makes me smile every time I think of it. I'm so lucky to have both of them in my life.
Me: 40 straight male in a V with
Wife: Kay - mono female - married 18 years
LDR girlfriend: Susan - poly female - 3 year relationship
Stakes - very intimate friend