There is a lot of reading to be done here on the topic of jealousy. Also on the morethantwo website.
You made a bad mistake! He gave you his blessing to fuck Mike but then you did, and didn't tell him, before or immediately afterwards? Gosh.
There's no lying in Poly! Lies of omission are just as bad. Be an adult, tell your h the truth, and work on your trust and jealousy issues so that you can both manage polyamory properly. See my sig.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place. --Shaw
me: Mags, female, pansexual, poly, 59, loving and living with
miss pixi, female, pansexual, poly, 37