Originally Posted by lovefromgirl
At least she should be home very soon, and you can reconnect, not to mention talk about it face-to-face.
This made something click in my head. After my husband has alone time with our girlfriend, I need time to reconnect with him (to help me realize that our relationship will continue in a healthy manner.) This is because of issues in my past and in the history of our relationship, which likely you don't have, but maybe it would help you in future to make sure that the two of you can set aside time afterward to reconnect in a way that's meaningful to you. Also, as you can see from the responses you got, different people define poly in different ways, and different people connect or don't connect sex with emotion. It's important that you figure out where you and your girlfriend stand on this issue.