Originally Posted by CielDuMatin
A question - now that you have realised what was going on, and have presumably explained it to him, how does he feel about this?
He's devastated and fears it means the end of our marriage. He recognizes now what he did, what it did to me, and what he/we have lost in our marriage because of it. The bond he & I had during sex was sacred to him... yet at the same time he didn't recognize that it was no longer there for me.