Originally Posted by Magdlyn
You're so effusive in your descriptions of the hotness of your lovers. But it's odd I've never read you effuse over Copper. She's just kind of-- there. More E's gf, really?
You go on an on about the attractions, body and mind and spirit, of Mahogany, a woman of poor ethics but (let us not forget, extremely) good looking, and some kind of hot commodity publicly, and of Director, whom you've met exactly twice.
You're not in love with Copper, am I right?
LOL - I love it Mags. You are right - I haven't gushed effusively about Copper. She is the strangest relationship I have had yet, and I haven't really sat down and written about her.
We connect on a very girly level; we both like fashion, shopping and pedicures. We both like animals, cooking and fine dining, having drinks, and engaging in the pleasures of life; hot tubs, massages, great sex, foot rubs, snuggles, snacks and relaxing. We don't connect so much on an intellectual level though, and I know that this is the difference between Mahogany, and even the entrance of TheDirector. When someone turns me on mentally it makes a gigantic impact on me - I could talk for days with Mahogany, could talk for days with TheDirector. Talking with Copper is a slower process, and she covers topics that are more on the surface of life. It's not uncomfortable, it's just less stimulating, and gets less fuss from me.
Of all of the people I have dated, she is by far the least dramatic. She is centred in her life, works hard, takes good care of herself and is largely a very happy person. She is close to her friends and family, adores her cat, has a spacious place that is always tidy and well looked after, and enjoys spending time by herself being quiet and relaxing. She is undoubtedly mellow and chill, quick to smile and laugh, and is good, giving and game in all things. No, I'm not in love with her, and I get no heady rushes of emotion when I think about her. We have passed two months of seeing each other, and are all being exceedingly practical about our relationship; the likelihood of it lasting long term is low, and she says that she is 'having a lot of fun' but would call it quits with us if she met the right guy. There are no illusions, no projections or expectations, and it seems like the first relationship where Elemental and I are fully immersed in the present moment, instead of caught up in ideals or fantasies.
Mahogany has had the shittiest ethics. This is very true. She is ridiculously gorgeous, and is definitely a hot commodity. We match each other really well when she's not driving me nuts with lies; we enjoy the same sorts of cultural events, are both very cerebral and neurotic women, love to travel, read, eat, exercise, and have that same girly connect of fashion, shopping, pedicures, massages, etc. She is the definition of a sexy, successful woman to me... lies aside... I loathe those, as you well know. Ick. We're talking that out, working on it, and seeing what comes of it. When it comes right down to it, I know without a shadow of a doubt that she loves me, and is there for me.
TheDirector could well be a flash in the pan. We'll see. He certainly has my motor running, but there is no place where 'don't count your chickens before they hatch' could be used more appropriately than in my poly dating life.
So am I in love with Copper? No. Is she more Elemental's girlfriend? At present, yes; her and I haven't been cultivating a lot of one on one time to date, but I know that we're planning on having an independent sleepover next week, and that bonding time will be good for us. Is she 'just there'? No. Thinking about it, I actually realize that I write and talk to her more than any other person in my life right now.
I haven't had a chance to comment, but I am SO excited for your recent move with MP. That is so awesome.