He can and does use a condom with Miss M. I realize I wasn't clear, sorry! I was saying that condoms are not an option for him and me. It's not what we want.
I was projecting my feelings (fears?) about him wanting the vas so he didn't have to
use barriers with her. I was insecure and worried that he was thinking more about their sex life than our possibly having children. He wasn't. I just got scared.
I'm going to call my doctor on Tuesday and talk to her about my options.