Well, LR... I should qualify my post by saying that the one thing we both agree on is that repairing the bond between us is the priority. We have spent the better part of the last 24 hours contemplating the "what if's..."
What if it can only be repaired outside our marriage?
What if it can't be repaired?
What if it can be repaired within our marriage but additional relationships would neither hurt nor help?
What if repairing it outside our marriage makes him feel insecure? Who's needs do we prioritize?
I discussed your concern w/Stewy and he responded that the purpose of posting for input was exactly for that... input. That we need, and will value ALL input. Especially yours.
Our goal is that the bond be repaired, HOW it gets repaired is of secondary importance. So, we BOTH welcome any and all perspectives.
"Life is too short to always sit around worrying about the bad shit that could happen. It's a lot more fun to go start some shit of my own. "