I come out when asked about Murf. Frankly my family has done nothing for me the last 12 years. They are not paying my bills they do not need to know the dirty details of my life.
As for people interested in dating you.. Be honest from the get go. New friends that is up to you. Coworkers it is non of their business.
But I am a private person I feel no need to wave the poly flag from my roof top.
40 yo straight female
Married in the eyes of the government to Butch since 2001...
Murf my monogamous second husband has been with me since May of 2012.
In a V relationship with an average 60/40 split of time. Only due to Murf's and Butch's crappy work schedules.