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Old 05-22-2013, 07:15 PM
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Originally Posted by YouAreHere View Post
My monogamous marriage ended after 17 years. Did it not work? Or did its longevity, despite its end, mean that it did work?
Agreed, longevity is a really crappy gauge for deciding if a relationship is "working" or not.

People tend to over-focus on "keeping the relationship together". Making appropriate adjustments to a relationship because the people in it have changed is a perfectly natural and healthy progression. Ending a relationship altogether, if it turns out that is is necessary for some reason, is a fine alternative to trudging through it in misery. People change and their relationships necessarily change with them.
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