Originally Posted by YouAreHere
My monogamous marriage ended after 17 years. Did it not work? Or did its longevity, despite its end, mean that it did work?
Agreed, longevity is a really crappy gauge for deciding if a relationship is "working" or not.
People tend to over-focus on "keeping the relationship together". Making appropriate adjustments to a relationship because the people in it have changed is a perfectly natural and healthy progression. Ending a relationship altogether, if it turns out that is is necessary for some reason, is a fine alternative to trudging through it in misery. People change and their relationships necessarily change with them.