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Old 05-22-2013, 06:56 PM
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Originally Posted by Ssandra View Post
For me the reason is to feel included. To feel part of that part of his life. And also to share in those things that are important to him.
I never understand it when people say this. I believe all people in relationships are entitled to their own space, freedom, and privacy. You are already an important part of his life, even if you don't have all the details of every little thing he's doing. Why is it necessary to be all up in his business in order to feel "included?" I just don't get it. Sounds like rather deep insecurity to me.
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