Originally Posted by CielDuMatin
Chalk me up as as example of this working out. A long story as to the "why" but bottom line is I cheated on my partner. Years and years of work and we regained a level of trust, but it takes a huge amount of commitment on both sides to make it work.
My role model for it "working out" is my parents. They choice to stay together because of us kids. They hated each other our whole youth and teen years and now just tolerate each other. They have moments of love now that they are in their 70s but they are a crap example of a successful relationship. I have good reason to believe that it more often doesn't work or is not worth staying miserable for. Of course this is not very positive and I'm sorry for that, with a couple of perspectives maybe it will help.