Well, it's a start. But how would that work, not telling him anything unless he asks? Say you've met someone and you're chatting online, or on the phone, or making a date, or have a date planned? You don't say anything until he asks?
I guess he wants the "don't ask, don't tell" to prevent his own jealousy. But he will have to know of course, if you meet a Mr X and have a date planned? How would that play out? You just say, "Honey, I'm going out. See you in the morning," and wait for him to ask, who with?
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37