I listen to what is being said, and then, I repeat it back to make sure I heard correctly. If I did not, it just gives the other person the chance to correct me and prevent that. We also ask questions if it is something we do not understand. I usually try to phrase what was said in the question. I, too, had selective hearing, and it caused trouble, trouble, trouble. When we talk, I express myself in a clear manner to alleviate confusion. I think about how I want him to talk to me and express his thoughts and feelings. It takes time to get accustomed to it. It does take patience and and understanding. Listen intently, repeat what you heard, and if needed, ask for more information or details. That goes for both of you. Communication is a two way street.
Ry - Me. Panromantic demisexual with a history of polyamorist tendencies. Married to...
Mr. Grey - The once distant stranger that I complement beautifully. DH of 12 years and father of our (3) children.