Originally Posted by Elly
We're both on OKC and tried an experiment. Neither of us were getting any response and then we changed our statuses to single and both got instantly flooded inboxes.
Was your first profile all about how "we" are looking for an open minded bi female or a bi couple to add to "our" relationship? That is intimidating.
And now you've got individual profiles and do not mention being interested in polyamory? First of all, yeah, "single" women do get flooded. Especially young ones. You might get dozens of messages a day. You can fill out your stats so that you tell the site you're partnered or still open to dating, then your status comes up as "available," not single.
Your bf must have a good profile and pix, lots of men do not get looked at, much less contacted.
Make sure you fill out the answers to lots of questions, especially the ones about open relationships. Then you can weed out the men/women who come up a high match with you. I generally do not date anyone who is less than 90%. And even some of them are total flakes.
Dating is hard! It takes work, and kissing some frogs, to end up with your poly princ/ess.
okc worked for me though. I met my gf of 4 years there, and then finally, my current bf, we've been together a year and a half.
Just weed out the skanks who only want some quick sex. Delete, delete, delete.