Good points, thank you everyone!
I guess this probably won't even be as big of a problem when I'm actually in the situation, it just feels that way now that I've never been in one. I just recently had an event that was important to me, but I was able to bring all three there and that was great.
We'll see what happens in a situation where I can only bring one, I'm sure we'll figure it out somehow.
Me: bi female in my 30's
Live-in partners: Hank and rory
Exes that I might talk about
: Zooey, Ray, Sol, Evan, JJ