Thread: Gold Rings
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Old 05-17-2013, 01:43 AM
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Originally Posted by Vixtoria View Post
DH never takes his off, I had to get him a special wedding ring that doesn't conduct electricity since he works with electronics daily!
Originally Posted by BoringGuy View Post
to me it's one of those things i am relieved to not have to keep track of. Besides, i work in a lab so i'd be taking it off all the time. And i don't wear jewelry anyway. It bothers me.
MrS never takes his off either...took care of the "losing it"/"doesn't wear jewelry" thing as well...He has his tattooed on. He wore the original ring for the first few years when we got married and then had to keep taking it off/risk losing it while he was in the shop - so he left it home. So about seven years in he got the tattoo (it's the only tattoo that he has). (Boy, did the tattoo shop guys try to talk him out of THAT.)

Originally Posted by Vixtoria View Post
I know I feel weird if I dont' have something on that finger and the other ring finger since I fiddle with it all the time!
Me too...but I also feel that way if I don't wear a watch. But I can adapt - for a while I wore rings on all my fingers, then just my two ring fingers. Then just my wedding band and engagement ring. Then just my band. Now I am back to my wedding band and engagement ring - unless it is a "fancy" occasion.

Originally Posted by BoringGuy View Post
My Spouse and i don't have wedding rings. It doesn't serve a symbolic purpose, they have no personal significance, it's not what our relationship is about.
Our rings do have a minor symbolic significance to us - but there are many more important things...I LOVE traditions - when I can mold them into things that are significant to me (and discard them when they aren't).

Originally Posted by BoringGuy View Post
You've got bigger issues than whether or not he wears a piece of metal on his body. I don't know how you got yourself into this kind of deal, but it seems to me you can do better.
Agree with this. My impression, when I read the story, is that the wife probably was displaying a, likely, subconscious feeling and your interpretation was informed by your own insecurities. You should probably sort that out.

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