You see it as a list of woe, suffering and sacrifice... and your perspective is correct. This has also been my life for the past year and some months. I used to roll my eyes at other people's problems too, until I found myself in this unimaginable situation. I get it now.
Thank you all for your input, it has been most helpful in a situation where, I must admit, I already knew was and is very bad and very abusive.